By definition if you have different religions or beliefs you have different sources of authority, whether in the form of religious rules or people. You may have different criteria for making decisions. For some people faith provides a framework of rules to live by, for others values are more personal and intuitive. Religious belief even within one faith tradition can take different forms. The aspects you emphasize may reflect your culture but also your personality.
http://what-about-lifecoaching.com/definition-of-spirituality7.html
http://www.retreats.org.uk Retreats association website and directory on finding a retreat.
www.apscc.org.uk The Association for Pastoral and Spiritual Care and Counselling (includes all faith communities) Website includes a bibliography on psychotherapy and religion
http://www.turveyabbey.org.uk/13_Interfaith.htm Turvey Abbey in Bedfordshire, pages on Interfaith activities including courses, conferences and retreats
Your faith may teach about family life and marriage, but how does your partner feel about it? If your partner doesn’t really feel what your faith teaches has anything to do with them, can you find a different common ground in agreed values for decision-making?
Sometimes religions have explicit teachings about what’s expected of a partner of another faith, and what limits should be imposed on them. Can you reconcile these rules with your reality? There’s a fine line between your religious integrity and your partner’s freedom. What is ‘right’ in terms of religion may not always appear ‘right’ from the point of view of marital harmony. Are you willing to compromise and take the time to work out a balance that’s good for you as a couple and family?
Some couples find they can manage fine by leaving religion out of the relationship, either because they either don’t do at all or do separately, or they work out a state of truce around certain issues. But are there ways you can enlist your faith in supporting your marriage rather than undermining it?
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